The Process

I never wanted to know how the Divorce process actually works.

But here it is...

Drive to the court house, don't think.
Get the paperwork for a Complaint for Divorce, don't think.
Fill it out, if you don't have an attorney (cheaper without)
Pay your money.

He will get a copy and have 20 days to reply. Or he may just sign it the same day.
Then you can file for temporary custody and support until the divorce is final, just do it right away because it's part of the process, otherwise they may feel threatened by it.

Then you can go to court, or do mediation.
But at this point....GET AN ATTORNEY, NO MATTER WHAT!!!!!!!!

Then when all the CRAZY is over you will have an agreement.
and then it's just a matter of signatures.

Yesterday I put my last signature on the last page.

Isn't it sad that in a legal document it states:
"We are no longer able to communicate and no longer love each other as husband and wife."

You pick up your pen while sitting in front of a notary at the bank in the grocery store, and while everyone is coming and going you put your name on the paper, and just like that your marriage is over.

Something that started with a dress, and invitations, dancing, cake, music, a lifetime of planning...ends with ink on paper at the grocery store.

sad, but then you walk out get in your car and continue your awesome day.